I was just watching a video where a single mom was talking about how hard it was to parent alone. They are beautiful and endurant and sacrificing, which means the cast-away husband/father must have been blind, abusive, and self-centered, right? That was why this most wonderous and beatified mother could ever divorce or so it seems
. It is an accepted sociological fact that men are monsters and if a woman hasn't divorced random man yet, it is only a matter of time before the monster reveals itself and a new saintly single mother is born.
If single parenting is such a hard task and requires so much above and beyond mere human ability, that should speak volumes about the absolute benefit of keeping husbands around. Women shine up both mother and father badges when they say they wear them both with crushing heaviness, it begs the question of why a reasonable woman would put herself in the situation of raising children largely alone. Perhaps it has more to do with many women enjoy bathing in victim/hero status that society bestows on the single mom after her late (might as well call it what it is - the killing of a man) husband/bedmate/monster is legally crucified. Society is perfectly happy to have men practically murdered to mint a new single mom/goddess who can never do wrong again.
Wouldn't it be better to keep marriages and families intact? Society might do family a favor by spending even a fraction of the resources applied to broken families to setting more realistic expectations with women and men, appreciating (even just a little) the contribution of fathers to families, eliminating silly no-fault divorces that often tear a family to shreds for no justifiable reason beyond selfishness. Women could put aside the cultural hatred and distrust of all men and be the main driver in building model men as protectors and providers.
